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Positive Thinking

Savage Love Gay guy here. Met a guy online. He came over. We had incredible sex and then a great conversation lasting several hours. But—and you knew there was one coming—he told me that he lied about his HIV status.

Wednesday, March 29, 2017 Dan Savage

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Curious Minds

Savage Love I recently spoke at Curious Minds Weekend in Toronto at the Hot Docs Ted Rogers Cinema. Audience members submitted questions on cards before the show—anonymously—but the moderator, Lisan Jutras and I were h...

Wednesday, March 22, 2017 Dan Savage

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Wishful Kinking

Savage Love I went to Dark Odyssey Winter Fire, the big kink hotel takeover event in Washington, DC, in February. There was one thing I saw there that is messing with my head, and I hope you can set me straight.

Wednesday, March 15, 2017 Dan Savage

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Defining Decency Down

Savage Love My wife and I have a decent sex life. Pretty vanilla, but we’re busy with work, chores, and life in general with two small kids, so I can’t complain too much.

Wednesday, March 8, 2017 Dan Savage

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Come Now

Savage Love Fortyish, straight, white dude here. I have this weird (possibly misogynistic) belief that, when it comes to sex, I can’t win. Actually, I think men in general can’t win.

Wednesday, March 1, 2017 Dan Savage

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Fantasy Scenarios

Savage Love I am a straight married man. My wife and I have a 4-year-old and a 3-month-old. We’ve just started having intercourse again. For Valentine’s Day, we spent the night in a B&B while grandma watched the ki...

Wednesday, February 22, 2017 Dan Savage

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Pair of Aces

Savage Love I’ve been reading your advice column in the Coast in Halifax for a while, and it seems that most solutions to relationship problems revolve around sex.

Wednesday, February 15, 2017 Dan Savage

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Wilbur & Rensselaer

Savage Love Last week, I spoke at the Wilbur Theater in Boston and the Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute in Troy, New York. Audience members submitted their questions on tiny cards before the show, allowing them to remain a...

Wednesday, February 8, 2017 Dan Savage

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Advice Columnists Without Borders

Savage Love I am a 26-year-old heterosexual European man. I have been for four years in a monogamous relationship with my girlfriend. Recently she cheated on me. When she told me what she did, I felt a very strong pain, ev...

Wednesday, February 1, 2017 Dan Savage

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Savage Love I am quite the follower on social media—Facebook and Twitter in particular. I make no trolling comments, no #MAGA hashtags; I just look with my male gaze.

Wednesday, January 25, 2017 Dan Savage
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