Santa Fe Reporter - Love & Sex <![CDATA[How to Get Laid - Use consent to be a better lover]]>
By: Hunter Riley
Maybe you’ve heard the idea that asking for consent will ruin the mood. In my almost seven years of working at Self Serve down in Albuqerque, I can tell you that’s absolutely not true.]]>
<![CDATA[Accomplice Accomplished - ]]>
By: Alex De Vore
Yes, this is the Love & Sex issue, but we’re not just here to talk about romantic love. In fact, right now is one of the most important times in history to be an ally for everyone you love, platonic or not.
<![CDATA[Pleasure is a Weapon - Use It]]>
By: JC Gonzo
The future of erotic freedom should look brighter than it does. A broadening of sexual representation and visibility in mass media has been taking the (first) world by storm since the millennial shift.]]>
<![CDATA[Have Drama-Free Group Sex - Fulfill fantasies without leaving someone crying in the corner]]>
By: Hunter Riley
We all know the trope: Two people are in a relationship, and they want to have a threesome. They feel excited. Giddy, even. And when that magical person (or people) comes into their lives, they get down to business.]]>
<![CDATA[Freaky Under $50 - Do it for V-Day, or Whatever]]>
By: Maria Egolf-Romero
Valentine’s Day—and dating and romancing in general—can be costly, but they don’t have to be. Love is the prime mover in this world, and you can make it special regardless of the thickness of your wallet.
<![CDATA[Smart Sex - Wake up with brains! It’s natural!]]>
By: Robert Basler
Pssssssst! Bob? Pssssssst! Yes, I’m here. Why are you whispering and acting all furtive? Shhhhhhhhhh! Because I need some advice on Santa Fe sex.]]>
<![CDATA[Legos and Labia - Giving Little Kids the dreaded Sex Talk]]>
By: Lauren Whitehurst
I have not had The Talk with my kids. We talk about our bodies and see each other naked, and I answer whatever questions come, but I hope to avoid The Talk. ]]>
<![CDATA[Three’s Company - Santa Fe’s polyamory community is small but proud]]>
By: Emily Zak
He was a mediator working with the New Mexico Children, Youth and Families Department. She was a substitute teacher. And the other guy worked at the post office. They all lived together in a house in Silver City with their children.
<![CDATA[Talk Industry to Me - Two adult film stars open up on misconceptions, current challenges]]>
By: Hunter Riley
Mickey Mod and Skin Diamond share their stories of working in the porn industry.]]>
<![CDATA[Might as Well Face It, You’re Addicted to Porn - In the advent of 24/7 streaming, porn buffers on]]>
Off the lonely Old Las Vegas highway just southeast of Santa Fe sits a clinic that treats a very private activity: compulsive masturbation to porn.]]>
<![CDATA[I [Still] Do - Fight from marriage equality not over yet]]>
By: Justin Horwath
It’s been a year and a half since we’ve been able to print these words in SFR’s pages as a statement of undisputed fact: The state of New Mexico recognizes the marriage between two people of the same gender.
<![CDATA[Ditch Tape - How to get dumped with the power of local music]]>
By: Alex De Vore
I once had a crush on this cashier whom we’ll call K-Mart Girl. After I became aware of K-Mart Girl, everything I ever needed was thereafter purchased at the retailer, whether or not it was a convenient trip.
<![CDATA[Sipping Sexy - Get turned on with these aphrodisiac cocktails]]>
By: Natalie Bovis
Tequila shots and clumsy kisses across barstools can happen any time. But Valentine’s Day brings an opportunity to really impress someone with whom you want to get drunk and naked!
<![CDATA[Eat Me - Your food fetishes aren’t that bad. Usually]]>
By: Rob DeWalt
Do you remember the first time you associated food with sex? Was it while eyeballing the froth-slathered woman on the cover of the 1965 album Whipped Cream & Other Delights by Herb Alpert’s Tijuana Brass?
<![CDATA[And Now, Your Cinematic Cigarette - Here are some movies to get you in the mood (or kill it with an icepick) ]]>
By: David Riedel
Like everything else in our super advertised, heavily marketed consumer culture, the day has been taken over by large corporations that want you to spend money unnecessarily on bogus products to prove, loudly, the love that you spend the other 364 days of the year proving quietly.]]>
<![CDATA[Good Vibrations - The science of sex toys is alive! (And thriving) ]]>
By: Hunter Riley
Technology is already an integral part of the booming multibillion-dollar sex toy industry—and that’s just the beginning. No longer are the days of walking into a sex shop only to find phallic, jelly toys that leave you shocked and maybe a little embarrassed.]]>
<![CDATA[Gender Blind - Local transgender community navigates medical crossroads ]]>
Jess Clark, an education and prevention supervisor at Solace Crisis Treatment Center in Santa Fe, agrees and says oftentimes transgender people get “misgendered” at the doctor’s office, “from someone calling you your birth-given name to a doctor not asking you the right questions about pregnancy.]]>
<![CDATA[G Wiz - G spot pioneer Alice Ladas looks ahead ]]>
By: Enrique Limón
“I went to a conference with a research paper done with all of the women bioenergetic therapists,” Ladas reminisces on the book’s origins. “I went with a paper called ‘From Freud Though Hite: All Partly Right (And Partly Wrong)’ and there’s where I met my co-authors.]]>
<![CDATA[Pretty Slick - Make orifices thank you now. Ask me how! ]]>
By: Alex De Vore
Hunter Riley, manager of ABQ’s Self Serve Sexuality Resource Center and SFR sex columnist says there are basically three types of lube: silicone, water-based and oil-based.]]>
<![CDATA[Porn Supremacy - Make way for porn’s fastest growing demo: women ]]>
By: Sophie Engel
happened to be in a strip club. I had this money...and couldn’t for the life of me get a lap dance. I was the only woman in this topless bar.]]>